Dear Marla,

I find myself living in two distinct worlds, each with its own set of norms, desires, and challenges. The contrast between the "Vanilla" world and the kinky world is stark, and I suspect most Vanilla folks cannot fully grasp the nuances of living in both. So, let me try to explain.

First, let's define some terms. A fetish, according to a definition I found, is a strong, often obsessive, sexual interest in an object, body part, or activity that is not typically considered part of conventional sexual behavior. Fetishes can vary widely, from specific materials like rubber or leather to body parts like feet or hands, or even activities like role-playing or impact play. Deep rubber fetish, for instance, is a complex spectrum involving various aspects like gender perception and personality traits.

Now, what about BDSM? BDSM is not a single fetish but an umbrella term that encompasses a wide range of activities related to bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism, and masochism. Within the BDSM spectrum, there are many specific activities and interests that individuals might find appealing, and some of these could be considered fetishes. For example, someone might have a fetish for being tied up (bondage) or receiving impact play (spanking, flogging). However, not all BDSM is fetish; some people enjoy the dynamics and power exchange aspects of BDSM without being fixated on specific objects or body parts.

In contrast, the Vanilla world is all about conventional sexuality. It's the world of mainstream relationships, where kink is often seen as taboo or even deviant. This world can be comfortable and familiar, but it often lacks the depth and intensity of the kinky world.

The similarities between deep rubber fetish, BDSM, and Vanilla lie in the fact that they are all expressions of human sexuality. They all require open communication, consent, and respect for boundaries. However, the differences are profound. Deep rubber fetish and BDSM involve specific objects, activities, or dynamics that are not typically part of conventional sexual behavior. They can be intense, obsessive, and require a deep understanding of one's own desires and boundaries, as well as those of one's partner.

In conclusion, living in two worlds is a unique experience. It's a journey of self-discovery, exploration, and understanding. It's about finding pleasure and enjoyment in activities that are not typically considered conventional, while also navigating the complexities of relationships and societal norms. It's a journey I'm glad to be on, and I hope this helps you understand it a little better.

Yours,

Thalia